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beau1974

total posts: 56
Posted on 05/05/2006

Somebody once told me that finding the right person is very hard and very wrong. It is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there. You'll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a 'right person' for you. And don't rush things co'z somewhere, somehow GOD is preparing somebody for you.

You can never be perfect, the person you love can never be perfect. But both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect through the two of you. But, no relationship is complete without God-that is why we have marriage. It's a bond not only between you and your loved one but also with GOD.

Our relationship fail not because (s)he's not the right person--it's because we expected too much and we decided on our own. Let GOD do the work. You may call it 'waiting time' but while you are waiting...pray. Let GOD guide you always. He knows betters.. No, He knows best.

Love is not what you think it is. Sometimes, we mistakenly feel that our first relationship will be our last. Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of true love.

Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying one self for the sake of someone very important in our life. Others are saying love is immortal and can never be defined.

When we think we're in love, the first thing we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us. We say this phrase: "You are the most wonderful gift from GOD I have ever received!" But after a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say: "You are the biggest mistake I have ever made in my entire life!" Now, how do you say and spell the word LOVE? Are you really deeply into it?

Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right into our ears. Most of the time, these love promises like "Forever", "Till Death do us apart" etc., would end up "Never", "We should part ways..." "I'm no longer happy with you", "My love for you is DEAD!".

Many times after having committed to someone and your trust to one another freezes down to zero degree, we thought"He/She ain't the right one. I should probably wait for the right one to come." But the big question anyone could not answer is "Is he/she the right one?" and "When is the right time?" That makes us stick to whom we are with.

Will you always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to commit? A big YES is the answer. Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are ready into it. Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there's a compatible partnership that goes along with it.

If you already knew that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt don't give it a try. You'll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made. If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don't go deeper into it. you'll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your life. It's really hard to say goodbye though, but you can't make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention. Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it all by yourself. More fluently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason.

We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, its justy pity.

We call it love when we're too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We misunderstood, its just that we're too much dependent to them.

We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave, no one would accept us and our past. We are mistaken, its just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn't something you can buy nor beg.

It is real and existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in your heart.

You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come.

It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget that it can also make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.



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beau1974

total posts: 56
Posted on 08/03/2006

thanks!



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beau1974

total posts: 56
Posted on 05/26/2006

hi monatass, i know how you feel, i did experienced that same feeling of being heartbroken, wherein I waited I waited for a long time and eventually he married somebody else. I was devastated that time as like everything fell on my lap. I dont know how and when to start. "Its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". Its painful I know but always think that at least you had felt how to be loved and just remember those happy memories you had with him. I dont know how to comfort you.

But you know, the most powerful is prayer. Pray to the Lord to help you understand all his plans and to heal you.

Let go and let God do the rest. :)

(I'm sorry if i had to answer your problem in this site as I cannot email you personally because I am a non paying member.)



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beau1974

total posts: 56
Posted on 05/25/2006

hi Monastass! thanks for visiting my blog. Thanks also for your kind words. I am not that strong but I always keep in mind that the Lord will not give us problems we cannot handle. Everything happens for a reason. Just hold on...

God Bless.



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beau1974

total posts: 56
Posted on 05/21/2006

Hi Barney, thanks for visiting my blog.

Anyway, when your ex-girlfriend married the guy, it means that she loves him. She wouldn't marrying him in the first place. She made a vow. That is something sacred. If that moment she knew that she's not ready to commit and that she doesnt love the guy, then she could have stop the wedding, right their then. It won't be easy especially for that guy but at least you have been honest and would you rather spend the rest of your life with somebody you dont love.

Let go, "you" let her go not the other way around. I'll be honest your the one who is holding on to her. Try to talk to her and explain the situation. If she loves you she won't put you in a situation that both of you will suffer in the end. Love is a sacrifice.

This is for you and not for her:

"Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention."


Talk to her and if you love her you will let her go... Take care and God Bless.



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Barney

total posts: 1
Posted on 05/20/2006

Hi beau!
The things you said are the situations my Xgf is in.She's not happily married bcoz she rushed things b4.
Now, we encountered this dilemma wherein we still love each other inspite of all the things that happened to her.
My question is,How will you justify your statement"TRY TO LET GO(of her husband) AND LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST?" Remember she's married.



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beau1974

total posts: 56
Posted on 05/17/2006

hi jp, thanks for visiting my blog. Love is something that we need to share to others.



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jp1234

total posts: 1
Posted on 05/12/2006

I've read may things and experienced very many of the emotions and thoughts you refer ed ,spiritually I'm a fuller person ,living in love and growing together with ,is at least for me was the purist reality that life had to offer . i worked hard to know eternal live is just this kind of strong love .yes we grow together and yes some times fade apart ,but love as such doesn't cease to me anyway it get just isn't as close . i enjoyed your writing very much ,hope we could share more words in the future ,peace JP.



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